How to Indirectly Confront Your Parents

If you know you are struggling with a parental relationship, but it is not possible, for whatever reason, for you to talk to them, find someone else with whom you can let out your frustrations. Most people would choose to take this route. Once you have established what your normal pattern of behaviour is in their presence, you can take measures to change it. You will begin to see how you still act as a child and issue the same demands. They follow your command and behave in the same way they did when they were responsible for you. But things have changed, and you have to take the lead to put the changes into place. It is not up to them to change the patterns until you ask them. The goal is to change your current behaviour when you are with them in the same way that you would confront any other external authority as outlined above.

Your first step is to identify what it is you need from them and then take steps to get it elsewhere. If you need to go to their house for the night, get some home cooking and your washing done, you are setting yourself up to be treated like a teenager. For the good stuff you receive from your parents, you must pay a price and this is to stay in the old pattern. Get a washing machine or start using the launderette and learn how to cook your own nice meals! You then need less from your parents and you will be able to confront them indirectly as you would your work colleague, as outlined previously.

Your behaviour will gradually change and, although the change will startle them, they will adjust. What you want to achieve is you feeling better about yourself in their company. This does not entail them changing, this is about you changing. Bear in mind that it's rather like the family members being represented as bobbles on a nursery mobile. The balance of the mobile is delicate because if one bobble moves the rest are affected and all the bobbles on the mobile will move accordingly to keep the mobile balanced. When one person gets off, the mobile will bounce around for a while, before the mobile even­tually settles down and forms a new shape. This is what happens when a family member puts some changes into place and forces a different dynamic between the members (the bobbles). New relationships will form and everyone will need to adjust.



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