Learning to say 'No,Thank You'

People usually get depressed when they compromise themselves and allow others to bully them into doing things they would rather not do. We give in to others because we are frightened about the consequences of saying 'No, thank you.'When we neglect our own needs we become empty and even resentful of others. The irony is that when we outline our limitations to people making demands of us, we feel much better about giving and sharing at other times. Some people I know have recovered from depression by simply learning to say 'No, thank you' when they are being asked to take on too much. It is terrifying doing this for the first time if we are not accustomed to saying no, because we get guilt feelings for standing up for ourselves. However, it is our right to make an honest assessment of our responsibilities at any time and, if we feel uncomfortable taking on more, we should let others know our limits. Here are some tips to get going:

• Stand in front of the mirror and say 'No, thank you' to yourself until you're bored
• Now stand in front of the mirror and say 'No, thank you to yourself as the person you want to face
• Practice the conversation you need to have as you imagine it out loud with you saying 'No, thank you' at the right moment
• Practice with little things-even if you want to say yes to someone, simply say 'no' until you're used to it
• When you are ready, go to the person to whom you wish to face and just do it!

Yes, it's scary at first, but no more so than going to a party where you don't know anyone. If the thought is terrifying, then take a look at the possible outcomes of your actions. If you are petrified, then you are creating some archaic scenario from earlier in your life. As an adult, you are entitled to say 'No, thank you' to anything you don't wish to undertake if it does not feel right for you.

If you are going to confront the authority, you also have to be clear about your goal. Your goal needs to be about you and how you would like to feel. It needs to address what you need to get off your chest, how you want to change your behavior in another's company, and how you want to lessen the negative effect that someone has on you.



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