How To Find A Decent Therapist

When you begin to look for help, you must spend some time getting the conditions right. This can be very difficult. Finding the right therapist can be a bit of a lucky dip. You are going to be bearing your soul to this person, and you need to know you can trust them. Obviously, client confidentiality is the bottom line, but there are other factors to consider. It can be a mistake to go for the first person you hear about. Finding the right therapist is like anything else of great importance - you need to shop around.

I know to my cost that rushing into a therapy situation with­out taking a view on the person, their working practices and the environment in which they work can be detrimental to the recovery process. I have opened up to people who needed more help than me! As an example, I went to one therapist who, in hindsight, actually had severe depression himself and would tell me about it during my session - an absolute no-no, as therapists should not be talking about themselves in your time! Together we wound ourselves into a web of inappropriate behavior that resulted in him coming around for dinner and me counseling him on his day off. At the time I thought I was cool. In retrospect I lost all self-respect. And the bizarre thing about it was I was paying him $100 per hour!

Below are some sources of help placed into three categories:

1 Therapy

2 Unfacilitated groups

3 Facilitated groups

These three areas are to help you get started and to give you ideas of what to expect. They are not the absolute gospel, simply an idea of what's out there. Take a risk on at least one area, but the ideal scenario is to get help from an individual and from a group. The one-to-one feedback will encourage you to stop running away from your pain and will give you information on how you see yourself. The group will help you to see how others see you and also help you to feel less isolated - you will suddenly realize that there are others out there who know how you feel.

Taking a risk and making the first call is part of getting better. This is because we are doing something to help ourselves and going forward. It takes more strength to take that first step forward than to step backward by medicating the pain. This is our ultimate choice and we may swing from one to the other. We may go for help and seem to make good progress, then we decide we've had enough and go on a 'bender' for six weeks. This is common: nobody is perfect. We cannot recover overnight, it takes time and sometimes we can get fed up of waiting for change. However, any help goes towards a 'credit' in the recovery bank balance.



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